EmXee's blog

2011-03-13T14:51:00.005+08:00

Currently listening to Within Temptation. and its 13th the march something magical about my favorite number!!

It started out with a Polar bear breaking the ice, well not quite from the polar bear but i think that the point where it got more interesting, and yea the number 13 exist somewhere here. A single conversation.. slapped in my face and awoken the interest inside me that was sleeping for a long time. After all most people don’t know how to have a pleasant conversation, or how a conversation could be interesting just about any topic in nature. At the moment i don’t know anything about this amazing person. Personally I am drawn towards like a magnet would when induced a new magnet. We both probably are “MAGNETS” in our own social crowds where the rest are like different types of metal alloy with different levels of force of attraction. But magnets “ATTRACTS” other magnets like non other metal alloy. i guess i am going too much in to applied physics. Well like all stories there is the “BUT” part, there is the strong belief on the impression that Politics is “SEXY”. Its no biggie i always find a way around everything, how hard can it be to get around politics.. This is a personal scoop of my life for those who care. since i stopped writing much about my personal life. Getting on with the real post!!

~Letters~

Now a days who writes them? the old classic Letters.. Email and instant messenger came along and there was no need to post them. cos it was so easy and it was all digital. Digital age of communication leaped forward with the introducing of Face book then there came the twitter after it. all these means of communications are used to Flirt.. or tell some one who they feel doesn’t take much just press in to few keys and hit Enter (Return) message delivered.. and appreciated. before face book people used to spend a lot of time in Blogging then it had its flaws but it was the closes to letter. but it quite had a bright side to it. A lovely post could be written and posted dedicated to some one with out the person knowing it exist. Just as my anonymous tip about an excitement in my life :D And let know some one something personal with out others quite catching what its about. Blogs can be viewed and read by many and privacy was optional. the Letter has to be dedicated. to a soul with an address for it to be delivered.
Going back to Classic letter. the best part is its done by hand. It has personal touch and a feelings with in it.. it is not just another victim of the Digital age. Letter forged by the pen of a poet is priceless. Not that every one has to be a poet to write a letter of a feeling. When you spend time thinking about what to write what cleaver way to explain your feelings in few words and when u construct perfect little sentences placed in a nicely fluent paragraph the letter becomes complete. Know this that you are putting part of you in to that letter the hand writing and pen marks the stamps and the creative little designs makes it all personal and the reader is obligated to take a look in to it, and read it but a mail or a message can be deleted with out even having to open it. I personally believe a feeling is better expressed in a letter with a personal touch. we should keep those habits alive never let it go extinct. even the great Valentine him self wrote a letter dedicated to his beloved “from your Valentine”. All the great love stories and legends have the secretly send letters. How many of you would own a shoe box full of letters that was sent to you from some so dear. or how many of yo have a special folder in your mail box to show that how many mails he/she sent you. Mailing is cold, lifeless and there is no warmth of the feelings in it its just mere ones and zeros, (1110000110101). now try to make a sense out of that. Bottom line is taking time to sit own and using a pen starting off with Dear.... you are personally visiting your closet of love and personally putting it to words. Then again even the Couples, Lovers and the Friends are too busy to spare that time for the mere purpose of writing a letter when you just can text or mail while on-the-go. After all we are creatures oh habit, for ever doomed chasing for the shortcut in every thing. After all we are only human.

2011-02-14T01:07:00.008+08:00

its valentines day. was searching for some thing to listen to suit my mood before i start with my post. i got lost in to youtube and some how i stumbled up on the song i have longed waited to hear i first heard it from KJ he played that song when he was here in malay 2008 since then i never knew he recorded it he did a record and posted on youtube on may 17th 2010. name of the song is Yaa raa Huvafen- by KJ.

I wanted to do something for the Valentines day this year as well since last year though i was i alone i did have some candles and my camera with me to share that special day. but this yea some how the Valentine spirit didn't kick me till after i came home being out all day for shopping. anyways this is my contribution for this special day and i hope this makes a difference. here goes....

What is “Valentines Day”? id u ever give that thought to mind? some believe its based on Christianity. as one legend says Valentine was a priest who served during the third century in Rome, when Emperor ClaudiusII decided that single men made better solders than those who had wives and kids. CladiusII outlawed marriage for young men. Valentine, (the priest) realized the injustice of the decree, Valentine defied Claudius and continued to perform marriages for young lovers in secret. When Valentine’s actions where discovered, Claudius ordered that Valentine be put to death. This was one story but the history on this is not that certain.

Then there is a much more romantic and a fantasy like legend where people strongly believes in this legend. According to this legend, Valentine actually sent the first “valentine” greeting himself. While in prison, its believed that Valentine fell in love with a young girl. who was the daughter of the Jailor of the jail where Valentine was held prisoner. Jailer's Daughter visited Valentine during his confinement. Before his death. Its believed that Valentines words where a letter he wrote to his Love, which he signed “From your Valentine,” and this expression that is still in use today. and its said the February 14th is the day that Valentine was put to death but there love was never lost even till today.

On a personal view Valentines Day is the day where we take one day out of the whole year to celebrate the love for the loved on as did Valentine with his letter. we celebrate the Love that has been in existence since the dawn of time. Valentines Day does not express any celebrations for a certain religion or race. as i believe Valentines Day is a day where two certain hearts come to peace to celebrate their love despite the religion, cultural and social beliefs.

We need the love today in this broken world where hate rises like a brewing fire. we need love to tame that fire and spread peace among all with in their heart. I haven’t faced anything in life that would make me lose my beliefs in love, so i strongly believe in love and I celebrate LOVE on Valentines Day. not a dead legend or someone's death. After all what u believe is what you stand for, with out faith and belief there is no meaning of living life.

all contents in this article are referred from http://www.history.com/topics/valentines-day

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2011-02-13T19:35:00.002+08:00

Same But Different

Currently Listening to : Dido “who makes you feel.”

Weather is like a bitt off and dark just the way i love it Thundery and Rainy and the cold Breezes.

Humans. each one of us difference from each other but same at the same time. when u take a group of people look at them as one group you stereotype, label, and categorize them. dividing groups in to jocks, nerds, goths and invisibles (who don’t belong in any category) same goes with individuals. its all about the judgement we make. Judgement is something we make due to appearances or actions. As it is in our characteristics we tend to judge other the moment we get a first glance, few looks of the person or few words about the person from a total stranger or a close one.

Human. singular! take one person separately and u will be astound on how they can be entirely something else from the rest. even if u take one single person from a labeled group such as invisibles. Lets see why they are invisibles. because there is nothing to talk or point out about these people and they certainly do not stick together in one group and talk about common stuff they have. mostly they are individuals who don’t appear in the out. Taking these as a point, individuals can be extremely different.

Personal experience is very important here. Meeting with some one getting to know that person and having an actual conversation about life, that would now change any judgments made earlier. Its humane to judge people by appearance or looks. Some times we judge the right character but giving a chance to our self to get past that label we all proudly put on others as if we are better than the rest of them. As a common group we are the same, Looking at us as individuals thats a whole different story!

2011-01-17T23:05:00.003+08:00

Point Of View

Currently listening to Colbie Caillat : Bubbly

It’s a new year. Hoping for better starting off with a new way in to life. Speaking of Life.

Life is not what is always seems to be. There is always something good behind every bad that happens and vise versa. And with all the problems we face, life is much more easy than what we make it to be.

Lets see how different people interpret life. It’s always about point of view.

Optimist: The Glass is Half-Full

Pessimist: The Glass is Half-Empty

Realist: “Yep that’s a Glass alright

Idealist: One day Cold-Fusion from a glass of water will provide unlimited energy and End War.

Capitalist: If I bottled this Water and give it a new edgy sounding name I could make a fortune.

Communist: This drink belongs to every single one of us in Equal measure.

Conspiracist: The government is fluoridating the water for mind-control purposes.

Opportunist: There is a Funny T-shirt in here some where with a glass of water printed on.

Sexist: This glass is not going to refill itself, honeybun..

Nihilist: “The Glass does not exist, and neither do I.”

These are Different types of personalities looking at life from different angles that a single person could not possible have thought of. But adapting some these ways of thinking would really help to look at life from a different angle when you get stuck.

And that was jus about a glass and water. And yea as I see it “the glass has half water and half air so the glass is always full”.

As I say Life is not always what it seems to be, so let the mind go beyond the fullstop!

2010-11-14T20:05:00.005+08:00

fRuStRaTiOnS!

Currently listening to – ‘taking me over’ by Evanescence.

Being stressed and bored. But guess that’s a given since its life. But expressing the real feelings it’s a bit hard but when I wrote them on a tissue on my desk was frustrated though was calm enough to write them on that tissue I know writing it out really helps me. Though most of the times it feels like breaking stuff with a golf club. Thank god I do have a golf club and have a habit of collecting many glassy stuff. But it’s too much of a value to break them over some frustration. That would jus feel weird and worthless after it’s all broken.

I know I’m writing crap here and most of who reads this wont actually get where I’m getting at. Those who get it I have my sympathies since you understand, my twisted way of thinking and my mind games. You should have gone through a lot to actually understand all the crap I put out. Any ways I don’t thinks this post will be too long.

Writing helps be put out my frustrations and Music from Evanescence its really my mood lifter well actually not a mood lifter but helps be to be in my frustrated mood in a controlled level. Past three days have been all in bed days watching movies. I jus need some changes in life that I can’t wait to have. I know life is like this it’s not happy always believe me in a way I love the frustrations. And sometimes its hard to be the person who is always great. Some times I think about why I taught my self, how to let go of things that easily and find wired reasons to smile about. This is the last of the post thinking about a picture to put in this post and a heading. I guess I love my frustrated days too. Anyways see you guys in the next post and those who didn’t get what was my point in this post its better that way.

2010-07-22T22:19:00.005+08:00

Currently listening to 3 Doors Down – I’m here with out you

End of the Chapter.
Life is a funny thin it has brought us happiness and at the same time brought us sadness. And every one feels one of these feelings at some point of life and its an endless cycle. This post will be a shocking post for who read this and who actually know me for a long time, today my life ended a chapter of my life which I have been writing for three years. It began with a kiss on May 12th 2007 and this chapter came to an end today July 21st 2010. To summarize why this happened, its something I have been thinking for a long time due to many reasons and many of those reasons involve my carelessness too. Its was on a collision course since last year and given the circumstance I got lazy when it come to solving problems and I didn’t care much about my actions since I knew it can never be changed. I believe how much pain and suffering I brought to you and I didn’t know how to appreciate your loyalty. However how loyal the relation was it was a trust issue between us. And for a very long time I try to avoid it and move and but every time I come back to where I started and later on I didn’t care much. After all that I realized the best thing for both of us would be taking separate pathways. So I took the a step out and tried to move on, I tried before also but every time I remind my self I can still work my way through any problem, but this time I had to take that leap out of the best thing I ever had for the past three yeas which became very suffocating over time. We both know we never where happy later on thought we love each other. And u where never ready to let go because of your love to me. This time I tried with a lot of thinking and after a lot of talks to with my friends and I came to a conclusion that It was time to move on. So I did. and yes I am scared that I might regret this decision but still there is no life with out any risks. Thank you for being there for me and being loyal to us and all I can say is I’m sorry for the pain I have caused you hopefully you’ll get healed soon. If I leaned a life lesion from this relation, I learned is that, Happiness is important than love. A Relation filled with love that lacks of happiness wont last. But if there was happiness and love was minimal it still would work. Happiness would create enough love for the relation to survive, not more neither less.

You fall in love just once, the rest is just living life

P.S. I’m really sorry and I apologize from my heart.

2010-06-21T12:10:00.007+08:00

Currently listening to Avril Lavigne

Days have past so fast that I lost track of time. Since last post its been a long time. I forgot to write a post on my very important days this year the valentines, my birthday and the 3 years anniversary. Those are three important things so far that I have missed to mention a post on those days but one more is coming up its my girl’s birthday I hope I wont miss that. It’s sad that I can’t be there to celebrate her birthday with her. Leave the coming event for later, in this post ill try to explain what I have missed to write.

Starting with Valentines. Feb 14^th

Well I was home all that week didn’t go out much. Since I was alone at home I jus always like to do a little celebration of my own and I was very bored. It was my camera and me. I guess it’s me and my cameras first valentines and its sad that I didn’t have a date to go out with to a romantic place and take pictures. So since I was home I planed to do some photo shootouts. That night I used a lot of candles to make a heart shape and light them up it was the perfect heart shape I have done so far and when it was light up it looked really nice and all the work I put in to it was worth more than a romantic and expensive dinner.

Second came my 19^th Birthday. March 24^th

Well it was one of the important days of this year and first it sucked because birthday came during my exams but after exams it was great than other years that I haven been here, it was celebrated with my buddy yaan since we both had same date its was nice one of our friend sykez mom and aunt gave us a kind of a surprise. We knew the guys where taking us to some place to do something to us since it was our birthday I thought it was jus some eggs. But there was a party at sykez apartment with pizza and cake and all that. It was fun most of the friends where there and after the pizza and cake they took us down to the pool and threw us in to the pool I broke my wristwatch other than that no harm done after pool there was eggs and flour. The whole birthday tradition was there. That makes it the most enjoyed birthday and I was happy about its since it was my last teen birthday.

Third important day of the year is the 3years of Anniversary. May 12^th

It was the most important day though I couldn’t do much I just hate being lonely here. In a way it sucks here not much to do and I don’t have the most important person with me to celebrate lost of important days and this day is important for both of us. But which makes this day so great is that in a way we are grateful for the fact that we both are far away from each other for this long and to know that we have made it this far all by our selves. It takes lots of patients and work to have come this far. Any ways stating that fact its been almost 2.5 years apart thought we saw each other in between for 3 times during the years. Coming to the present day on the anniversary day there was one of the many fights we have since we live far. That day we both didn’t speak and I kind of ignored the calls but I did let her know that I wasn’t in the mood to talk. Since the mood was spoiled between us I jus thought of overcoming it and I kept my self busy with my candle prop I like to celebrate things with candles so I did a ‘3’ shape on a big black paper and took photos. Since I was not satisfied with the ‘3’ I took still life photos of the best gift she gave to me the couple statue. It is a v special gift. As one day we where walking on the road nd I saw it in a gift shop and I took it out I said I liked it very much I wasn’t serious at all it jus looked nice and I came back to Malay and the next time some one came here she had sent me that same statue for me I was very happy but little uncomfortable knowing the price of it. Now I believe that statues value would be much more high than its cost. Any ways that day was pretty special but it sucked because I was alone. I wish to have a anniversary together soon. Looking forward for 4^th anniversary.

2010-02-06T14:14:00.005+08:00

Currently listening to a Acoustic Cover of LADY GAGA – Paparazzi by Lynzei Since it’s a Saturday noting much is there to do but I have some friends coming over later today, but for the mean time its just me alone in my room like always :D Anyways thought of writing a post here since its been some time that I haven’t written anything. Also i have been thinking about some stuff and though ill give it a written form to see how you guys judge it.ing. Also i have been thinking about some stuff and though ill give it a

Stop for a moment and Think about it……

Well all I write is about my life maybe some times refer to others as well. This time its some thing I write to myself and also if u think this relates to you in any way don’t take too much time to “stop for a moment and think about it”.

For us when we get some thing that we like a lot, we really do appreciate it and we care for it so much. With in the time spend we actually fall in love with it and it will be the person or thing that u have that u cherish more than your life. I’ll still stop here now you think about what it is that u have like that?

So now clear what or who it is in your life? Great now ask your self this question “in your life what do u want for the rest of your life till u die?” A life filled with LOVE but v less happiness, nothing happening, a life so dull OR A life where there is love but HAPPINESS is what is always there?

Whenever you feel like there is a better opportunity, and to achieve that there is some sacrifice that u have to do, do not hesitate, “stop for a moment and think about it” compare u life with what you have now and what will u achieve if you take the chance and is it worth the sacrifice. Let me make it light for you. Most situations when u are in it its worth to sacrifice. Cos an opportunity never comes around that easily and you don’t have all the time to wait for the second chance most probably you’ll regret life and for not taking that chance.

About my place in this situation. Well I think v far ahead so I anise this opportunity and all of it pretty soon so I still do have time to “stop for a moment and think about it” but when the moments comes I will let you people know and all about my situation.

see you guys later with more problems, solutions and situations :D

2010-01-12T12:12:00.000+08:00

Something Like LIFE

Sitting here in one of the cabins in the college, it’s free time till 4pm its yet jus 1pm. Listening to Creed: one last breath. Thought I would write this and don’t have a better time to write :D

Well this is life. And it keeps going on, just like a countryside road where you see a long road ahead mostly a straight road stretched towards horizon till it vanishes in to one point. That’s my life so far. Along the way there might be some bumps but it feels good as if I’m sitting on a bike riding it’s comfortably, wind brushing through my hair.

Achievement. That’s something that makes us happy. Because when we realize that we have been working towards something and when we reach some point of it we feel happy. The feeling that we get when we know we have done something good with our life so far. And for me personally to day seems to be that day. There have been times that I have felt like giving up. But see it all worked out. I actually feel like the word giving up isn’t necessary when it comes to life meters, Anyways we will have to walk our way through it , in this journey we cant jus stop and get off the road… but some people go under so much pressure that they choose not to continue. But there is no fun in that cause you wouldn’t know how the story ends.

We obviously know the story I have been writing is in the same volume of my life since 2007, and so far this chapter have been so interesting that I think I’ll still keep writing. By the way forgot to mention that I am celebrating something today and its’ for you people to figure out what it is.

I guess I write too much when I write. Btw it’s a v special day for special and me some one. That special some one will know how I feel and what it’s all about. I wont go in to details cause I want to keep it like that till “I celebrate NEW YEAR”. Now what do I mean by that? Stick around read upcoming post you’ll get it soon :D

2010-01-07T16:01:00.004+08:00

So Far this is life.....

Currently listening to "seether" on iTunes

As usual it’s raining but it kind of stopped, I haven't slept yet cause I don't feel that sleepy but there is a morning class tomorrow morning at 10:30. Probably ill sleep after writing this post There have been many nights that i have wanted to write stuff but Iwas busy that my family also came here but I guess ill get to those post when i am in a stable place of the months, and alo

ng coming are my assignments in 4 subjects guess ill be pretty busy till FEBRUARY

Last night I thought that ill sleep after finishing up this post but unfortunately my concentration slipped away and I got lost searching for a convenient place to stay when I move to Limkokwing University… and about that LOL. Limkok is the new university i am planning to go to do my Professional Designing Degree. I am currently doing Diploma in Business Management and Information Technology. Some of who u read this might realize that Professional Designing and the Business management and I.T. are 3 different majors. Simply to put when I studied my O Level's I did Science stream that was to understan

d the world around me, when I got admission here in APIIT, UCTI I started doing Business and I.T. Business is for the like survival: P I knew in future ill be getting some income and that’s called a business and I will need to understand how it works in order to succeed, IT is jus something that come along in any diploma certificate that is done in that college. I’ll need the IT skills too but I hate the Programming part with all the languages. And hopefully next year will be when I study what I really want to study its Professional Designing. Ok Most of you are thinking what is the Professional Designing. It is a course that only Limkokwing offers, which consists of multiple kinds of designing. For example Web designing, Label Designing, billboard designing, photography, basically all kinds of Graphic Designing and Photography and video recording an

d editing, I guess you do get the basic idea here. I guess that’s so far what plane for my studies.

Well right now I am sitting here in a McDonald’s having my Big’N’Tasty and my large Coca-Cola. I don’t get Internet here so I am writing on a word pad. The reason I am sitting here is that came to Carrefour to fill my Badminton racket’s Gut. And they said it would finish around 3 hours so Iam jus passing my time. I guess if I pass too much time on the same thing ill give you ppl a headache reading all these nonsense. So I guess ill stop writing and I am feeling a little sleepy too and btw still am listening to seether.

2009-12-05T01:23:00.005+08:00

Questions from LIFE

I was tagged by Sassy not so long back!
Anyways, here it goes.

Rules:

It's harder than it looks!

Copy to your own blog, erase my answers, enter yours, tag 5 people.

If the person before you had the same first initial, you must use different answers.

You cannot use any word twice and cannot use your name for the boy/girl question.

1. What is your name: Muiz

2. A four letter word: More

3. A boy's name: Mishaal

4. A girl's name: Mishkaa

5. An occupation: Managing Director

6. A colour: Maroon

7. Something that you wear: Maternity Cloths :S (sorry thats the best i got)

8. A food: Marshmallow (apparently my favorite)

9. Something found in the bathroom: Mirrow

10. A place: Malaysia

11. A reason for being late: Mom forgot to wake me ????

12. Something you'd shout: Make Love to me (nothing else came to mind) :S :S

13. A movie title: Mission Impossible

14. Something you'd drink: Marinda xD

15. A musical group: Maroon 5

16. An animal: Monkey :P

17. Street name: Majeedhee Magu.

18. A type of a car: Mitsubishi Evolution =P

19. The title of a song: Make it Mine (Jason Mraz)

20. 5 people you want to tag : selfishgirl, Arykko, Sama, Iecco and PurpleButerfli

^_^

However besides these questions there are some questions that "PurpleButerfli" asked me one night while we where talking.... and i kinda don't remember the actually and every last question of it but i would like to share them with you people cos' these kinda stuff we kinda mostly tend to forget to ask even from the closest best-friend also..

1. What is your Happiest Moment:

Happiest moment haven't come yet

2. What was the Saddest moment:

Sad moments have passed by, but i don't consider them as the most saddest.

3.What do you consider the most stupid thing u did so far:

I'd say it was when i was 14 i used to have a big crush on this girl and it was her birth day and she was a friend so she clearly stated no gifts since she knew i was having a crush but i just had to give something, and my her bestfriend said no gifts like rose, chocolates, or a teddy, and i asked how about a book? and she said "i guess a book is fine." and i ended up giving her a "big fat Dictionary" that is by far the most stupid thing i did i was lucky that my crush didn't open it and gave it away to m best friend and asked to return it to me. Since she didn't want any gifts.

4. What was the most Embarrassing thing moment in your life:

There have been one thing that I'm embarrassed about, and its still pretty embarrassing and its kinda priavate so i cant share it with you guys... but its ok for you to share it to a close friend of yours who wont tease you about it and be supportive and understanding.

5. What would you take back from your life if you could take back just one thing:

That would some thing i did when i was 5years i guess but the memory is still very fresh. i know what i am about to say to you may sound like i a v bad kid, but i had my reasons even though they where stupid. My mom used to take me to her office in weekend and overtime work days. Mom works in Jamaaluddin School as a office staff and she go her first 25 years of service Pension this year. One day there was this event at Galolhu Football Stadium and i was very excited to go. By the way that was when i was the only kid in the family and my uncles and aunts favorite nephew :D... That day Mom did help me get ready.. since i got ready a lil early i think i was lying on the bed, but some how i fell a sleep and my mom left with out me...and one of the closes neighbor and my moms close friend came home looking for my mom and she waked me up and she said that my mom head already left and she asked to go with her. i did go to that event and didn't even speak to mom and set with the mom's office friends and wen we cam home i was so angry.. cos she left me there and i used to have this collection of story books the small ones with cardboard as i remember it was small enough to fit in my hand she was on the bed i was standing near my bed where all my stuffs are and i just threw that book at her and it hit her head and she was in lots of pain and she kinda cried.. That was the last time i looked at mom with even a bit of anger in my mind. i do get angry at her some times even after that but i never show it t her cos every time i get angry i remember this, and all becomes right. :D i know that was a lesson i learned but i still remember how she cried and i cant get that sound out of my head and even now i remember it as if it happened yesterday..

"This was a long story dho.. but just bear with me :P "

6.What are the stuff that i would buy for my self if i got 1million dollars $$$

for right now i need a MacbookPro, and then ill get the LED Cinema Display. I wan to to spend all i can to get the Professional Designing Degree program in Limkok Wing right now I am at UCTI doing my Diploma in Business Information Technology. and for my Hobby I would like to get the Canon D5 Mark II Kit with fully functional flash and a studio lighting system. and some more WD 1or 2 TB Firewire Storage Disk. since i already have 2 of them with capacity of 1TB in each.. not to exaggerate but i might consider getting a point and shoot canon G11 and the new 24inch iMac and ill get 2 way tickets from Malaysia to Male every holiday i get. and even though with all of these stuff i just mentioned it dosn't even cover a $30,000 so i intend to spent the rest of it to build my house make it a little bit easy for my parents. XD but what to do i cant buld up a dream on a big "IF" but this is what i think for now.. :D

7. When will you say that you have achieved your life's goal:

There is two stages for this answer. one is the "teenage me" and the other is the "married me"

The teenage me says...when i would have finished my Degree in Professional Designing, and Got married and My house is at least half way finished rebuilding. When i would have success fully launched my dream business of a Professional Party organizing Firm...

The married me says being successful running the business firm and being able to start the new back up plans as new businesses and being able to be a great dad and being able to bring up a nice little one or two kids, taught with the right manners and principles of life so it would help them to be successful.

Thats when i would achieve the life goal that i have set in my mind for now it could change along the circumstances of life.

"may GOD bless me with my dreams"

So far i have written some of the questions that PurpleButerfli asked me. there are other stuff too but i wrote the most important ones and most of other questions isn't coming to my mind. Having a hard time to remember these as well. and i have been writing this post since 2:00 am in the morning, these days i haven't really got time to sit and write a post since i have been busy. since i couldn't sleep tonight i thought id spend some time doing something productive rather than watching some series.

See you guys next time.. hope u enjoyed reading this one and now you'll know me from a personal view.

Please don't mind my spelling cos i am kinda bad at it i tried to make this easy on you guys as possible :D

P.S. So far this year this is a post i wrote with such interest.. :D

2009-11-09T16:03:00.002+08:00

its raining like cats and dogs.. cant see the highway just right out side of my place.. but its cozy and the right temperature, right now listening to Evanescence and this I'm in the perfect mood to write today's post..... these day there was nothing on my mind except two things that awfully i was bored and that i was missing some one that i was wishing to see her so badly. That was the reason i couldn't write anything and nothing worth writing was on my mind. However to day i thought ill scribble something since its been just too long and its better than nothing... Today I'll write about something i have been doing for a long time.

Waiting...

So what is what is "waiting". The word it self have many different types of meaning but i am referring to Waiting for something or till something else happens.. this kind of waiting is all about patience. Patience means the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble or suffering without getting angry or upset.

With all these waiting for some one is one the hardest job a person could handle mentally, and as long as we have patience it will be worth the wait. When this one person we wait for can make us happy for more than eternity. We know that the end result will be so much better but along the way we get upset because of problems caused from other personal feeling we lose that patience and after all we are humans and emotions fill our hearts and it cant easily change a person mind and some times emotion take over a persons actions.

All these stuff we have lived and experience but it can never be changed but for me the day that all the waiting i have done is very near and i know that it will be worth all the patience. This time this might be jus for a few days that I am meeting with the person I am waiting for and the real waiting to end i guess there still is about 3 years time. As i said along the way of a this long waiting these few days will be the most happiest days a person could have cos it gives hope for that last day we wait as if we where imprisoned in a place and waiting for the day that we will get free.
To simply put it. It is just like the Fairytale
Rapunzel

2009-10-12T00:12:00.000+08:00

Its raining out side. For the first time of my life I am sitting near a window where cold breeze passes by me. It makes it so perfect for the mood to write to days post, since I am really missing her. This cold wind really makes me remember some beautiful time we both had together.

Now with the real story.

The Secret of the number 12
started on a Saturday. it was a 12th, may 2007, something special happened that night, from all the people who knew me now one would have imagined that was possible to happens because some other circumstances.
Because of what happened since that day "two Souls" among 6billion, are having some thing very special that we all share with each other. It just "one love" that we all share.
Today I celebrate 2 years and 5 months for that love, I am sure that this love is some thing u feel once in a life time and a second time it will never be close as it was before. I am not willing to lose this cos this is some thing every couple dream of having for the rest their life time at least this the most happiness we can have in this world.
This love brought us so far and we trust on the love to lead us to the end of this journey. Each soul haves a destiny to pursue but destiny not the one point where u reach some place in your life. The journey to get there and the whole rest of life from this point onwards is destiny.

By the way realized that i still haven't explained what this 12(twelve) is about. The thing about 12(twelve)!!! That is the day, the "two Souls" found each other sharing the same "one love". The ONE stands for the "one LOVE" we share and the TWO stands for the "two SOULS"of us. For me to realize some thing this special about our anniversary date it took me more than 2 years.
I LOVE YOU
ALWAYS AND FOREVER
12
"one love two souls"

2009-10-10T03:48:00.000+08:00

GOOD NEWS AND BAD NEWS

When dealing with life, we face every thing in pares. Just like night and day and good and bad, in the case of day and night some of us would love to spend time at day time and sleep at night just as the natural order but some of us would love to stay up work or enjoy and sleep during the day. However in a case of Good and Bad no one will pursue anything Bad always would try to get the good out of everything. i have faced lots of bad news since the last post i have posted here, and lots of bad news i assumed related with some other stuff. with all that bad news in my head just one single good news a small word "Negative" gave me a moment of happiness ill never forget. Life is funny it plays games with us but some time when u really work to win, guess what we do win but always have to be prepared for a up coming storm cos after certain time sun shine a moving cloud may block it.

I see life as the sky at night. With a moon, lots of stars and clouds. Label cloud as problems, stars as people matter to you and moon as u it self. So the wind is your actions, a moving cloud could pass over the moon blocking its light and small clouds collide to a larger cloud and become larger just exactly like a problem. The moving clouds could hide some stars, meaning a problem will effect people closer to you with the reaction of your action.

"A minor thing you do might matter a lot to a person who cares"

2009-10-01T00:48:00.000+08:00

I am the Captain....

onece Barbara De Angelis wrote..
No one is in control of your happiness but you; therefore, you have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that you want to change.

after a long time, to night i had some fun.. its nice to get away from all the frustrations for a while. I know its fun to feel frustrated and jus sit in a conner of your heart and hate the rest of the world.
However to night i had fun and i would say this beats than just feeling good for my self i get to see and enjoy the happiness my friends get when I am around them.

this post might sound wired cos i wrote this post while my half a body is sleeping.. ok
see all you soon

2009-09-29T09:45:00.000+08:00

Life out of hands

its been some time that my life has gone out my hands. i cant get a hold on it and its getting harder and harder to catch up with it. i know its my mistake, this had to be like this just because i was careless. all of who read this would say what ever happened has happened so try to move on..

well i got nothing to say all i can say is that i have blamed my self for it for some time and it never helped me and have been frustrated over all that and spent a lot of dark time in my room just sulking over it, and that never helped either. Then this cam to my mind that i need to talk about this to some one so here i am talk to all of you well ill be fine with out any comments also i guess my head will feel much lighter when i just type these out i guess this is called shouting out in to the darkness
so the real thing is that recently during ramazan time i went back to male` it happened very impulsively since my mom wanted to see me and all and that was the midsem break for this semester and i had all my assignments due after that week. in my heart i knew if i go ill lose all the assignment and wont be able to work on them, but kinda mom said i can do that at home. but as you guys would know i am going male after long time who would want to even think of studying. Now i am suffering cos i missed 3 assignments of 3 subjects and i am barely keeping up to the last assignment of 4th subject i am studying and now i have only one choice to let it be cos ill be failing 3 subjects out of 4. the solution for this problem is to slowly start doing the leftover works starting this November. i hope i can finish all of them before i finish this diploma. cos i cant wait to get out of this Hell hole "APIIT UCTI" and pursue my dream career.

i guess since i have let all these out my mind is at peace..
PS: its been along time haven't blogged i guess i am starting blog again so that i can express more and feel less frustrated..
>>>see you guys soon<<< "LIFE IS NEVER SUPPOSE TO BE PERFECT WE JUST HAVE TO LIVE LIFE"

2009-04-19T09:21:00.000+08:00

COLD PLAY VIVA LA VIDA

I used to rule the world
Seas would rise when I gave the word
Now in the morning I sleep alone
Sweep the streets I used to own

I used to roll the dice
Feel the fear in my enemy's eyes
Listen as the crowd would sing:
"Now the old king is dead! Long live the king!"

One minute I held the key
Next the walls were closed on me
And I discovered that my castles stand
Upon pillars of salt and pillars of sand

I hear Jerusalem bells a ringing
Roman Cavalry choirs are singing
Be my mirror my sword and shield
My missionaries in a foreign field
For some reason I can't explain
Once you go there was never, never an honest word
That was when I ruled the world
(Ohhh)

It was the wicked and wild wind
Blew down the doors to let me in.
Shattered windows and the sound of drums
People couldn't believe what I'd become

Revolutionaries wait
For my head on a silver plate
Just a puppet on a lonely string
Oh who would ever want to be king?

I hear Jerusalem bells a ringing
Roman Cavalry choirs are singing
Be my mirror my sword and shield
My missionaries in a foreign field
For some reason I can't explain
I know Saint Peter won't call my name
Never an honest word but
that was when I ruled the world

I hear Jerusalem bells a ringing
Roman Cavalry choirs are singing
Be my mirror my sword and shield
My missionaries in a foreign field
For some reason I can't explain
I know Saint Peter won't call my name
Never an honest word but
that was when I ruled the world
Oooooh Oooooh Oooooh

2009-01-14T04:37:00.000+08:00

Oil Spill in Sri lankan Sea

After a long time again i am back.
well while i was in the flight to retun to Male` i saw this it was a small spill, but large scale of damage to the reef beneath it and fish living there.
i was shocked to see no boats or other working ships near it to stop the spill.

well i was waiting to post this sonner than this but i was too busy once i reached male so i had no time at to connect network well i have net at home but that mean i was not at home at any time othere than sleep. well this post is a small article willpost again soon at least i hope to...

2008-12-02T00:58:00.000+08:00

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2008-09-26T17:14:00.000+08:00

My dream Camera
Canon EOS 450D / Digital Rebel XSi

Most probably i would be able have my hands on this baby next year beginning. I bet that would be a second most happy moment in my life a dream come true *million dollar smile* cant imagine how my feelings will be when i get it ..........

i really wish this to come true

Canon launches its latest D-SLR, the EOS 450D. Featuring a 12.2 Megapixel CMOS sensor, EOS Integrated Cleaning System, 3.0” LCD with Live View mode and a new 9-point AF system, the model presents consumers with an unprecedented level of image quality and versatility at this end of the market.

The EOS 450D features:

12.2 Megapixel CMOS sensor
Canon’s EOS Integrated Cleaning System
3.5 frames per second
3.0” LCD with Live View shooting
9-point wide-area AF system with f/2.8 cross-type centre point
Picture Style image processing parameters
DIGIC III image processor
Digital Photo Professional RAW processing software1
Compact and Lightweight body
Fully compatible with all Canon EF and EF-S lenses and EX-series Speedlites

2008-09-23T06:45:00.000+08:00

I GOT MY macbook

i got my new mac book and
it is a dream come true have
been waiting for this day for a long time and finally i got it...

with the macbook i also bought a ipod shu ffle 2GB just as i had some money left

2008-09-16T10:44:00.000+08:00

Almost close to a Break Up

i was never ready for this but i see it coming

it would be painful well what you know i can turn the table

have faith in me.

I promised you a happy life.

I keep my word even if it kills me...

Smile Please......

2008-08-25T01:13:00.000+08:00

MuLtI cUlTuRaL nIgHt

where colors meet

well it wasn't much fun on the stage but we had our own fun
well her it goes
before the night i was suppose
to have a date with me
just a friend nothing serious
and all went flop since it was a
late night thing and one of my
friend was v lucky to get the extra ticket
since she got the gift from the lucky draw
i guess thats how lady luck works now i believe it.....
and all starts with a welcome and
introducing the show host and all
but i wont focus on
what happened on the events
its all about what we
Maldivians did to have fun
since we didn't have
any event on that night
it was kinda boring
because of that

while the events were on going we
Maldivians gathered on to the second floor
and we danced and shout out loud
what ever can to mouth and
thats what i say enjoyment
most of all calling to
people i guess having
own enjoyment
is wat it counts

nothing to say much about it
its all about what we had fun while comming back
most of the us agreed on walking back home
one the way like on male`
streets we sing and shout
i guess ppl hac think that
we cam out drunk from a bar or simthing
al were exhosted and sleepy
after all the shouting and stuff
and as we all got in to the building
wel all got distributed and
went on seprate ways

wel i dont know how my craxy life goes
on but iguess its on parth
were enjoyment is the
Theam

2008-08-21T01:34:00.000+08:00

CELEBRATING INDEPENDENCE DAY

well it's my first day in college for the second semester and as i was in college i heard news about Maldivians celebrating it with India Pakistan and Indonesia and i thought of wearing our cultural dress and in my break time i went home to collect all of my costumes and it was handy to my friends that i had extra and as i got the opportunity to carry the flag all its respect and i was very happy that i was able to give a good guard of honor with the national anthem my drills in scout cam in handy he-he...

as we go details of the events we had fun as one of my friend decided to change in to a costume there was non left so he decided to have Maldavian flag wrap around him and he took his shirt off and tied a scarf on head it truly showed the culture

we gave a small item to the audience but i do

n't think they would have enjoyed it since it was lame just singing some dhivehi songs, but we sure did enjoy it since we knew what it was.... its obvious that if we sing in dhivehi that a multinational crowd wouldn't appreciate it much ...

truly that event was lame but its was alot good than like last times jus deciding and flopping off the plan well its like typical maldivians right?

well there is up coming multi-cultural-night and i guess it would be much better than this.. its on 22 august friday night........ ;)

2008-08-18T00:07:00.000+08:00

A trip to KUDA BANDOS..........(:p)

its been long time that i haven't had fun...

18 days of holiday i was sitting in my room watching movies and eating snacks "which gave me holiday weight" hehe

all this get to gather began when a friend came over here at vista(its called to our place Vista Komanwel..) to stay for the week end and if it wasn't for him we would be sitting in our homes doing something boring

wel the photograph below shows it all.....

2008-07-16T23:41:00.000+08:00

oh crap
EXAMS!

have to concentrate
have to study
oh i am loosing my mind

hehe
its all art do u like it
i bet nobody like exams
hmm seriously i have got to concentrate
i wish all of u good luck
and to my self.......

2008-07-13T00:16:00.000+08:00

H@PpY 1 yE@R 2MoNtHs AnNiVeRs@Ry

Today, today I bet my life
You have no idea
What I feel inside
Don't, be afraid to let it show
For you'll never know
If you let it hide

I love you
You love me
Take this gift and don't ask why
Cause if you will let me
I'll take what scares you
Hold it deep inside
And if you ask me why I'm with you
And why I'll never
Leave
Love will show you everything

One day
When youth is just a memory
I know you'll be standing right next to me

I love you
You love me
Take this gift and don't ask why
Cause if you will let me
I'll take what scares you
Hold it deep inside
And if you ask me why I'm with you
And why I'll never
Leave
My love will show you everything
My love will show you everything
My love will show you everything
our love will show us everything

i just heard this song and could take my ear off this song it really explains some thing that i want to tell u and this song is from a movie called If Only, actually this movie explains how my life is.. how i struggle to get it all right.... but i guess in real life its not that easy as the movie shows
after watching it i felt like i should take this as a helping point and always keep in mind that that guy in the movie could have been me.
OK not all these rubbish its time for a happy celebration.
thanks u for been this special person to me that i never though that i would come this far.
i am lil sad that i cant be near you however been so close that u can feel my breath or been so far that u cant even contact me..... it doesn't matter our love isint small or less its the same..
and id be love you like this as far as life takes us i have nothing to give u on this day...
but i would add more love to ur heart wich is with me....
with all LOVE that i can get from this world i wish my seaflower a
very happy happy aniversary
~~~ for a better future~~~

2008-07-11T22:33:00.000+08:00

~~~~~~regret~~~~~~

i have never thought of the consequences...
i am stupid
i should have learn to forgive....... well it wasn't even a mistake that i picked so much about that.
all i can say is a worth less sorry
it will take time for u to understand me
but for what i have been all these time i have nothing to say cos i am the guilty person here and i confess that i am guilty and i regret that a lot more than any one could regret about anything
its like i almost killed my self. i should have see this coming.
all i want now is nothing but to forget all and continue.
i know it will be hard and i have no offense that u don't forget about this............
u have always understood me accepted me and i was the opposite.
i though i understood u.
i felt that i have forgiven u.
but what i felt was wrong and when it was this bad this had to hit my dumb head.
now there is nothing i can do to make my self clear...
all i am trying now is for a better future.
to change my self in a good way and take things the positive way..
i hope you'll understand my feelings
i have never hated you.
I always loved u always, from the day i first saw u
and it was my mistake that i didn't allow my self to truly feel it.

2008-07-08T09:06:00.000+08:00

♥♥♥♥♥♥Missing you♥♥♥♥♥♥
♥♥♥seaflower ♥♥♥

sitting her alone in the airport makes me very sad all that come to my mind the times we used to spent together when it was cold......
feeling your warm breath on my neck makes me comfortable.

when i am with you i don't have any worries nothing to think about...
life seems easy.
but here i have lot to think, cant express life is hard here
every time i walk out of my home, your face comes to mind...

thinking that u have never seen any other different environment. to me the roads may seem boring but if u were beside me ill be glad to show u around.
for me this is what i have mostly seen nothing new. for you its a different world out her.

well ill be writing all these feeling on this post but this would
make this post boring...
all i am try here is to express that i miss my seaflower ......

"I Miss you"
but for me these words are not enough. its simple but sweet and strong enough to bring tears thats what is makes these three words so... so Touchy, Sweet, Cute and what else i can say....
Bloggers you decide.......

well now its time for me to leave and go have some break fast.....

2008-07-05T08:03:00.000+08:00

THIS IS MY ADVICE TO ALL MY DEAR GIRLS●●●●●●●●●●

the reason that i thought of posting this is that i have been telling this to most of my friends every time they come with this problem

i don't think he loves me :'(

he don't care what i do don't appreciate me...

my bf loves me and gets really crazy when it comes to sex all he loves is sex...

well my guy loves me and i trust him but yesterday i saw him with my best friend in the park.....

my dear girls all these happen behind your back and most girls do ignore them saying that he is good he loves me just he needs more time to know me so he wont cheat
and the other attitude is
what the hell i don't give a dame what i saw from my eyes is enough or what i heard is enough evidence to say this is over

tow major attitudes
in both case have to see both sides to brig balance.
well lets say from the girls side typical boys cheat.. that's true..
well there are many girls who don't cheat but they get bored of the same guy soon.. if look at the population woman are three times more than man so literally it becomes kinda equal that men cheat..... well girls dump.. hehe

from boys side of view if boy gets dumped or cheated it may not become a major issue since boy thinks no worries ill get next one soon.
there is a believe i have in my self every thing in this world has its own balance like
black and white.....

Well boys and girls u may not be with the same or with same thinking no matter how much u click, still may experience a different attitude but still to survive have faith and walk on different tracks but at most points it goes same route but at some points may take a bend but it meets at the next point so its better give space and think twice and wen u meet the second point you both will be really in need of each others then u hit the jackpot your life becomes perfect but its all about trust, faith and self control.

"expect less give more"
"depend on your self don't depend on some one u end up falling off the cliff"
like in a situation u two may be drowning in the water no matter how much u both love, at a certain point when it comes to a life threatening u or your partner will try to hold each other trying to survive drowning each other........
so think Are u a person who is drowning your partner?

2008-06-29T07:43:00.000+08:00

HAPPY BIRTH DAY seaflower.......

To be far from my seaflower is making me weaker to face my own life. Since i have to be here apart from her for at least 4 years i some how mange to keep it going...

To day is my seaflower's Birth Day.
just right after 365 days that i gave her first rose that she got from a boyfriend. well feels lucky to know that i am the first boyfriend to give her a rose....
well its onther story that we celebrate our anniversary on MAY 12th....

well shortly to say that we met before and as usual jus like normal friends and didn't met for a like two weeks and met on 10th MAY. and found that she faced a very bad life experience. And as usual i thought that ill help her out of that.... and with in three days my life changed up side down... well in a good way she fell for me. But it was hard for me to fall.... so MAY 12th was the night we both realized to continue a relation and i proposed to her on her birthday since i started loving her back i never though that i could love some one else...

Thats the most unique thing happened to me "on the night of MAY 12th, to go on a relation with her... i am really thank full for god, for showing the path when i was lost.

No matter how withered my seaflower was she always have never ending hope on me which she got courage to re-blossom her self in a total unique way just for me.....
"well this a try to make a poet but i suck on that"

WELL ABOUT THE BIRTH DAY !
"sorry that i get carried away when i go hit the sweet memories"

about the birth day all i have to say is that i am very sad that i couldn't there for my seaflower this time. but its always a promise that i ill be so close that to her that she could feel my presences .
befor i started typing this blog i was so sad and felt like i will mess up this post...but as i travvelsd through the sweet memories i feel so lucky that i have here....... ok ill stop here. Now its too much for one topic and i was way out of topic....

HAPPY BIRTH DAY
seaflower

seaflowers only xylin........

2008-06-25T23:54:00.000+08:00

L e T m E s I n G y O u a S o N g ........

I hope you’re doing fine out there without me
‘Cause I’m not doing so good without you

The things I thought you’d never know about me
Were the things I guess you always understood

So how could I have been so blind for all these years?
Guess I only see the truth through all this fear,
And living without you…

And everything I have in this world And all that I’ll ever be
It could all fall down around me.
Just as long as I have you,
Right here by me.

i have always dreamed of plying it and to sing a nice song to my seaflower, just sitting beside her making her feel all my love with the simple sweet songs. Its allot harder than i though but wont give up just wanna sing her a sweet song

i dedicate this song to my seaflower....

Its late in the evening
Shes wondering what clothes to wear
She puts on her make up
And brushes her long blonde hair
And then she asks me
Do I look alright
And I say yes, you look wonderful tonight

We go a party
And everyone turns to see
This beautiful lady
Thats walking around with me
And then she asks me
Do you feel alright
And I say yes, I feel wonderful tonight

I feel wonderful
Because I see the love light in your eyes
And the wonder of it all
Is that you just dont realize
How much I love you

Its time to go home now
And Ive got an aching head
So I give her the car keys
She helps me to bed
And then I tell her
As I turn out the light
I say my darling, you were wonderful tonight
Oh my darling, you were wonderful tonight.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nHC0mX-Er_E

jus some stupid post writen without sleeping

2008-06-25T03:46:00.000+08:00

sleeping has become a important part of my life. all these time i was awake and didn't get any benefit from that and i jus wana sleep in to my life until its time for me to wake. its too hard to face all these here, i am surrounded by a million people but still i feel lonely and left alone though i hang out with friends its not enough i jus miss my fun,love and comfort too much
i jus miss my lovely girl. with her it makes me the perfect guy.
all i can say is i love her more than any thing in the world but i know these words arnt enough for her.....
seaflower i am only yours

miss cuddling up on your lap like a cat.....

Men are from Mars Women are from Venus

2008-03-29T02:57:00.000+08:00

Dr. John Gray author of Men are from Mars Women are from Venus
Special Views.
Most reasons why this differences appear.....

1. The differences between Men and Women are universal. Women all over the world complain that “He doesn’t understand”. “He doesn’t listen”. “Only time he touches me is when he wants sex”. And men all over the world complain that “She doesn’t want to have enough of sex.” (Unless the woman is around 37 years. At this magical age women want more of sex than ever before.)

2. Women like affection from men much more than sex. They want to be hugged. John learnt to hug his wife.

3. Men like to be logical. Women like to share and talk even if there is no point in their sharing and talking. Men need to have an objective. They need to see the point in doing something. They can’t share for the sake of sharing.

4. Men tend to do one thing at a time. Women do many things at a time. Men have a tunnel vision. 95% of their attention is focused on just one thing and 5% on checking of the environment. Women are just the opposite. They are continuously taking in everything that there is in the environment whether it is useful or not.

5. John narrated the incident of his wife asking him to get some milk while coming home from work. He forgets. She considerately puts it down to his thinking of work. She asks him again. Again he forgets. She takes it personally. It’s not that the milk was forgotten but that she was forgotten. Women behave in this manner.

6. Men have their own caves on which the sign states “Please do not disturb.” Men like to retreat into their own world where they feel they are in control. Women also have caves but the sign on their caves is “I need to talk”. When a man asks a woman what’s wrong and she says “Nothing” it really means “Nothing, unless you care to listen and give me an opportunity to talk.”

7. 90% of women go into therapy because they want to be listened to. They want to be asked questions. They want to feel special. Men hate to be questioned. If men want to talk they’ll talk. If they don’t want to talk they won’t. When a man is locked in his cave, the woman thinks that something is wrong with him and goes in and asks questions. This is a wrong move for the woman to make. Men hate to be interrogated.

8. When a woman touches a man she may want to be cuddled. But for a man anywhere he is touched leads to Rome and he thinks therefore that it has to lead to sex.

9. Men want to forget the problems of the day. Women want to remember. A man will say “Forget it, it’s no big deal.” For a woman she will not rest till the problem is talked about. Her response to the man, who wants to just forget about it and not make a big deal out of it, will be “How can you be so insensitive.”

10. Men should never tell a woman how she should feel. In fact if she is unhappy, the man needs to be unhappy with her for a while instead of offering advice.

11. If the man is at a loss for saying anything when the woman is feeling bad then instead of offering advice he could build her up a bit by saying “I know how much you work during the day to make the kids and myself feel happy. It must be very exhausting.” Her unconscious response would be “He understands.” The woman craves for understanding.

12. Women make noises to get attention. Men make noises to signal “Please leave me alone.”

13. To cope with stress, sometimes, women while speaking tend to speak in long sentences and then pause. Men think that the pause is a signal for saying something. Wrong. For the woman the pause is just a semi-colon. Men need to restrain themselves in giving advice.

14. When a woman is upset and a man tries to give a solution 99% of the time her response will be “Yes….but”. When she is relaxed then give the solution. After she has been given the opportunity to talk about it.

15. If a man tries to walk in a woman’s shoes, she will be more willing to understand his point of view. Men tend to expect women to agree with their point of view because they feel it is obviously the best point of view.

16. Men are efficiency oriented. Must do it the easiest and fastest way. Women on the other hand feel that taking the shortest path between 2 points is boring. Women like variation. This is especially true in the bedroom. Men go by the same formula every time while women want variation. Men like uniforms and the same uniform. Men look good in a tuxedo or a suit and that’s it. Every time the same tuxedo or suit. Women like to change their dress; sometimes thrice or even more times in a day.

17. When John’s book ‘Men are from Mars, Women from Venus’ was on the bestseller list for 6 years in a row, John realized how narrowly focused in life he had become. He only gloated about his book being no. 1 on the bestseller list. John was missing the little things of life where his wife and children were concerned. Women are able to see the little things in life and be happy.

18. The more narrow the focus of a man the more stressed he is bound to get. He can’t notice anything else other than what he is focusing on at that moment. Women deal with lots of problems at the same time and the way they cope is to talk about them.

19. Men use their brain sequentially viz. one part at a time. Where women are concerned it is usually the whole brain at once.

20. Women lower stress through talking and sharing. The collectiveness and togetherness which they share is part of their feminity. Men lower their stress by being alone. Women’s attitude is that if we can’t do anything about it then let’s talk about it and suffer together. Men’s focus is on solving the problem. And if they can’t solve the problem then they make the problem disappear by forgetting about it.

21. Men always want to be right.

22. Women, unknowingly sabotage their success. They put themselves down because they want support. Women bond by putting themselves down. For example if one is late for a particular function in the office, the woman will say what an imbecile she is by not catching the right train or missing the connection because of some stupid mistake she made and so on. And other women who are also late will do the same.

23. Or if a woman is having a problem with the computer, she will call the so called expert from the computer department and tell him that she doesn’t know anything about computers and that she is very happy that he has come to her rescue and thereby push the guy way up there. But when he suggests a solution which she tends to disagree with, she doesn’t know how to tell him because if she does it, it makes him come crashing down and he reacts by saying that she has wasted his time. In this case one needs to resort to face saving devices like ‘whatever you have suggested will I am sure help me to figure it out (even if you see no utility in the suggestion).

24. As women more and more enter into the workplace their need to being listened to and understood is not being met. The workplace is efficiency oriented. They are becoming more and more isolated. They have to raise their children alone. Unseen and unheard. And this is causing them to go more and more into depression. The man focusses on work no matter what the problems are that are being experienced at home.

25. Man is efficiency oriented. He needs to feel needed. He needs problems to be solved. If there are no job opportunities or there is no effort called for to do something then the man feels depressed.

26. When women feel nurtured they feel happy. They are happy with the small things of life. Man likes to measure himself against the goal he has set for himself. Men behave like squirrels. They focus on one thing, dash towards it and once they reach there then they turn their focus on another thing and make a dash there and so on and so forth.

27. Men see the news on TV especially after coming home, because the problems they hear about and see make their problems seem that much smaller.

28. John’s soul sings when he teaches. Need to find one’s path and go along it. The fact that one feels fear is because it is one’s path. If it was not one’s path then one would not be so worried about whether one made an impact or not.

29. The truth is I deserve to be the way I am. I need not be bothered to be perfect in order to be loved. Once one lives in an atmosphere of perfect trust the more authentic one becomes, and the more authentic one becomes the more irresistible one becomes. The closer we are to who we truly are the more people will love us. There will always be people who do not love us.

30. Forgiveness is the key. If someone hurts then one needn’t hurt back. As Gandhi said, An eye for an eye will make the whole world blind.

31. Women give more. Men want to get more.

32. Women want flowers to be purchased by men. And they should be cut- flowers. So that the flowers die and therefore the men have to go out and purchase them again and again. They do not want the romance to go out of the relationship. Men on the other hand feel that if they have done it once there is no necessity to do it again and again. But women want things and messages to be repeated again and again.

33. Women sometimes give hints viz. On Sunday they will mention that they are getting their hair cut on Thursday. This is to be taken as a warning signal. The hair cut must be noticed. If a woman has to ask how she looks after she has had a hair cut then there is no value placed on the man’s comment. It has to be noticed without being asked. Women put in much more effort in looking good. Men put in more effort in their work.

34. Man wants to be appreciated. Woman wants to be listened to and noticed. Men stress more on what they do while women stress more on their being.

35. Men think that by being flexible they are Mr. Agreeable and that is appreciated by women. Really speaking women want men to take charge and suggest something which they agree on. Mr. Agreeable is boring. The ideal metaphor is to have a man with a plan and a woman with a smile.

36. Sometimes the woman feels that she does everything according to what the man wants. At this point it is necessary for the woman to say “I’ll do it this time your way but next time we’ll do what I want.”

37. Women are always keeping score in a relationship viz. When a woman does anything for a man she always gives herself a point. Men keep score in business. Men need to keep score in a relationship too. They need to do something for the woman so that they too score points from the woman’s point of view.

38. At work the man’s perspective is not to unnecessarily interfere. A man feels that if he doesn’t ask then he is giving total freedom to the woman. But a woman who is a subordinate wants to be asked about her work because silence is taken to mean ‘non-involvement’.

39. Women like the small stuff. Chit-Chat. Occasionally ask some personal questions. The magic words are ‘What else?’

40. To free a man a woman needs to say ‘You don’t need to say or do anything and you don’t need to feel bad.’

41. Listening creates healing.

42. Women by nature give. But when they find that they are not getting anything in return they need to give to themselves. Men have no problem in giving to themselves. Men don’t give enough to others.

43. Men prefer women managers while they learn the job. After learning the job they prefer a male manager.

44. Men sprint faster. Women win the long distance.

45. In men testosterone lowers stress. In women oxytocin lowers stress. Affection, considerateness, being noticed is what produces the oxytocin in women. Therefore men need to learn new skills to produce oxytocin in women. Foreplay is more important for a woman than a man. A woman needs 20-30 minutes of stimulation. A man needs just 2-3 minutes.

46. Women want sensitive men but the danger is that if men become too sensitive then women don’t like it. They want men to be considerate but not to be too sensitive just like them.

47. Don’t try to fix or change your partner.

48. When husband and wife are business partners then there needs to be clear rules. There needs to be a clear demarcated time when no business is talked about.

49. Duty is important but being authentic is more important.

50. Women can be compared metaphorically to the moon. When the moon is full, women crave for sex. When it is half-full, a woman can have it not have it, it does not matter, and when it is a new moon she couldn’t care less.

51. There are different types of sex viz. Healthy, home cooked sex, Ferrari, junk food sex, and Gourmet sex. Once a month one could have Gourmet sex which means bringing in the romance by going out for a dinner and coming home to an atmosphere which slowly climaxes. Whenever he wants sex, and it is a quickie then give it to him. Provided on other occasions there is good, regular homemade sex. In order to arrive at a meaningful understanding one could have 3 candles signifying the 3 types of sex. Either partner finds it very difficult to know the real mood of the other. Depending on which candle is lit and by whom one can behave accordingly. The candle becomes the sign of the mood.

WHY MARS and VENUS collied

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Why Mars and Venus Collide

Introducing John Gray's newest book

The enduring message from John Gray is that men and women are indeed from different planets. This truth has not changed since the publication of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. In fact, the differences between the sexes have become more evident in today’s hectic, fast-paced world. Except now, the monster known as stress has become a main ingredient in our lives and it has successfully invaded our relationships. Enter John Gray’s newest book: Why Mars and Venus Collide: Improving Relationships by Understanding How Men and Women Cope Differently with Stress.

No More White Picket Fences

Once upon a time, there was a lifestyle where men went to work and women stayed home. In today’s society, you’re more likely to find the power couple. They both go to work (for longer than just 9 to 5) and they are overworked, underpaid, and overstressed. They both struggle to excel in the same status-hungry society and hectic, competitive, career-oriented environment. Couples come home to each other … and instead of being comforted by each other, a new set of problems begin. And most of these challenges can be chalked up to one main ingredient: stress.

Unprecedented levels of stress are taking their toll on romantic relationships. Whether you’re in a committed relationship or single and dating, we are often too busy or too tired to motivate ourselves to maintain feelings of attraction or show our affection. But instead of pointing the finger at your partner for this lacking element, the more accurate offender to charge is stress.

Text Me, Email Me, IM Me, But Don’t Talk to Me

In a society where the methods of communication are multiplying rapidly, you would think that communication between couples has improved. But, unfortunately, the quality of communication has been drastically reduced by the abbreviated methods of connection. Quick texting and messaging increase our opportunities for independence and success at work, but they do nothing for the feelings of isolation and exhaustion that can exist at home.

Daily stress affects men and women. Both sexes are drained of their energy and patience and, at the end of the day, are often too overwhelmed to support and enjoy each other. Under the influence of stress, men and women forget why they do what they do. To make things even more complicated, men and women respond to stress differently, cope with stress through conflicting methods, and need different kinds of support to relieve their stress.

This isn’t to say that every couple in every household is arguing and bickering and headed for an implosion; but stress, if people are not aware of it, can affect relationships in negative and not always obvious ways. Men and women sweep aside their needs in order to handle their everyday responsibilities. Things get done, but passion disappears and, instead of being the solution to our stress, relationships become yet another problem to solve. But the teachings outlined in Why Mars and Venus Collide can change all of this – it is actually within the safe haven of our relationship that we can find relief from our stress.

It’s All about You

Many couples believe that they must sacrifice themselves and their needs in order to please their partner. But this attitude needs to be adjusted. Yes, compromise is required of every relationship – but you don’t make these changes and give up on yourself in the process. The art is in finding fair and reasonable compromises. John Gray introduces new ways to make this happen in a life filled with stress.

Men have traditionally been the breadwinners and women traditionally the managers of the home and children. But there is increased pressure in today’s society for women to work outside the home and thus there is a diminished pressure on men to be the sole provider. Women are expected to do so much in addition to their traditional roles, which have never been tweaked or redistributed, while they now work full-time jobs. Women have a never-ending to do list and stress is at an all-time high. Men are dealing with their own levels of stress. As a result, relationships become filled with misunderstandings, friction, and a sense of helplessness.

Going Back to Mars and Venus

John Gray’s solutions for stress are based on groundbreaking scientific research that supports the gender differences he has long described in his books. There are physiological reasons why women find comfort in talking about their problems and why men prefer to retreat. There are reasons why women can multitask and remember everything while men are able to focus on one thing at a time.

In Why Mars and Venus Collide, John Gray examines how men and women behave in stressful situations and provides new insights into how our responses to stress cause the sexes to clash. Remembering and understanding the differences between men and women is only half of the battle.

The other half is about action and learning to find effective ways to cope with stress. John Gray provides these coping methods by outlining time-tested techniques. Whether you are in a relationship, single, or starting over, in Why Mars and Venus Collide you will find new, practical ways to improve your communication, energy, and mood. You will learn how to reignite the levels of attraction in your relationship, create harmony with your partner, and enjoy a lifetime of love and romance.

All that’s needed from you is a willingness to learn, improve, and tuck away any fear of change. Accepting that stress is the culprit to blame for your problems – instead of your partner – will allow you to conquer and rise above some of the trying moments in your relationship. Putting the onus on stress will free you from expecting your partner to change, help you actually lower your own stress levels, and allow you to remember the pleasure of loving and accepting your partner for who they truly are.